Noticing the pressure placed on mothers — quietly, consistently, and without acknowledgment. Pressure to raise children well, to build a life alongside them, to fit
It came from the expectations placed on a new mother. Expectations shaped the way I mothered — not because they were right, but because they
Because of course we love our children. And of course we keep them safe. But for a child (and really, for anyone), love means something
It is not availability. It is not proximity. It is not being in the same room. Presence is not multitasking while listening. It is not
Behaviour is what we see and respond to. The volume. The defiance. The tears. The refusal. We name it quickly. We try to correct it.
Most parents are parenting from their own unresolved experiences. Not intentionally. Not consciously. But instinctively. The phrase I hear most often is: “My parents did
At first, even for me, it felt like an obscure term — not something we were expected to understand while managing homes, building careers, raising
And that is something worth fixing. For children, nervous system regulation is one of the most crucial building blocks of childhood. It ensures that they
Regulation is often misunderstood as quiet children. Or perfect routines. Or homes without mess. But regulation is not the absence of emotion. It is the
